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Alexander Lovell, PhD's avatar

The line that really struck me was, 'No one else's version of the so-called good life can or should be the same as yours.' This is such a powerful reminder to embrace our individuality and create a life that is authentic to us, rather than trying to fit into a mold that doesn't feel right. Thank you for this empowering message.

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Lori L. Cangilla, Ph.D.'s avatar

Alex, thank you! I appreciate your feedback. This message of being singularly oneself is the heart of what I do because I believe it is empowering. It’s also meant to be really flexible and adaptive, so that we are honoring the changes in our lives. My idea of the good life at 20 is not the same as today, nor should it be. I can allow myself to change and not beat myself up for having different needs, desires, and circumstances as I age. So glad weighed in on this conversation!

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Sandra Pawula's avatar

Lor, I like this framework. It's something to hold onto when it feels like everything is changing beneath our feet.

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Lori L. Cangilla, Ph.D.'s avatar

Thanks, Sandra! This model started with what I needed and how I look at life, but I’ve seen it hold true for many people. We all need a way to focus ourselves when life is shifting quickly and dramatically. 💚

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Gail Post, Ph.D.'s avatar

Excellent roadmap for determining how to handle change, which, of course, is inevitable.

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Liz Cooledge Jenkins's avatar

I like the idea of embracing obstacles as a reality of life rather than trying to avoid them, and focusing on tapping resources and planning skills to address them as they come up.

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